My boyfriend online dating
A simple statement like “I noticed you have your online dating profile still up and perhaps I don’t understand the terms of our relationship correctly, could you help me out with this? Not with the ears that want to believe, but with that gut!
I did this once and the next day he emailed me the confirmations from Match that he had indeed cancelled his account and I didn’t have to ask him to do it.
They keep these secrets because they fear your emotional reaction.
It’s not always that they don’t want to be with you.
Many relationships breakup at the three-month point, as some people only like the beginning stages of a relationship and don’t want to get serious. He might have told you what you wanted to hear, but he didn’t come out and ask you first to be in a committed relationship, although he said he wasn’t seeing anyone else. You also don’t know if this morning when he said he loved how he felt with you, that he had swiped for the last time and was ready to delete his Tinder account, right? There’s a saying, “Seek and ye shall find.” Why did you create a fake Tinder profile to try to catch him? You felt insecure about your relationship status early on and didn’t trust him.
From where he sat, he probably enjoyed dating you and hadn’t moved to a more serious stage yet. You were happy enough with him to want your relationship to be exclusive. Chances are he wanted to see where the relationship was going to go and got caught up in the game. If you’re sleeping together, he also might not want to give that up. Probably because you weren’t sure he wanted to be exclusive with you. You wanted to catch him and behind HIS back, logged on as a fake person to see if he’d take the bait. No guy wants to feel like his girlfriend is checking up on him, even if it’s innocent.
The problem Nina is something’s off in your relationship. If you trusted him, you wouldn’t have created a fake profile after two months.
Often men like you enough to move things forward, but they just aren’t all in yet.
He also swiped on your fake profile before you had the conversation.
I understand that some guys and women too, like the validation they get when someone swipes right on their profiles. I also know that Tinder is like a game and people like to see who is out there and swipe right and never speak.
Something is wrong if he’s not happy with himself and needs the validation. He says he’s happy and loves spending time with you, which is probably true.
The first thing here for you to consider before you start to analyze this to death is what made you check the dating site in the first place?