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They were part of our first urban family that included Tim, Boffman, Stephanie, Jabroni, and more.
They were both artists and really cool, funky people who had the biggest hearts we knew.
Here is my question: Are men ok with women sending introductory emails to them? In some ways, I see a email hello similar to a come-hither look at a bar, etc.
but in other ways it seems very aggressive and therefore a turnoff to most men. Dear Jane, Your question brings up two of the most common mistakes that women make in online dating: 1) Waiting for Men to Write to You First 2) Telling Him What You Like About His Profile First things first: Men LOVE it when women write to them. If you have an attractive photo, interesting essay, and you’re in his target demographic, why WOULDN’T he be excited to hear from you?
For others, it’s a slow and painful slog through hundreds of “nos.” Regardless of how we feel about it, online dating has lost its taboo and is here to stay.
But dating sites are like gyms — sure, you sort of know how to use all of the tools, but you’re probably not maximizing them.
I’m really grateful, Jane, that you made that connection between a first email and a come-hither look at a bar.
There is nothing inherent about initiating an email conversation that screams out “desperate”. Where most women screw up that first email contact is by taking one of two approaches: 1) telling him how great he is, or 2) explaining why you’re great and why he should write back to you. Is there something particularly energizing in the phrase, “I think we have a lot in common”?
Is it really all that intriguing when he explains why he’s a good partner for you, even though you haven’t met?
That is EXACTLY the metaphor I use for private clients in describing the “tone” you want to capture in your initial contact.
You’d never hit on a guy at a bar by walking up to him and telling him that he’s cute, he seems nice, and that you’d like to buy him a drink.